Confessions of a Working Mom of Two Under Two

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Confessions of a working mom...

Hi Everyone! In case you don’t already know, I have two BEAUTIFUL daughters who I love with all my heart. I also have a fun time job and side hustle. I became a mother at the age of 23 and a mother of two just eleven months later (I know, I know). Many people think I just have it all together all the time and that’s just not the case. Let me share with you some of my confessions from the not-so-pretty side of being a mom of two under two.

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  1. I have anxiety – a lot! According to Google, Anxiety is characterized by feelings of worry, anxiety, or fear strong enough to interfere with one’s daily activity. Now, let’s be clear, I have self diagnosed myself lol but that’s what I feel. Whenever I am not with my kids, I’m thinking of all these thing that could be happening and they are not always happy thoughts. Having small kids with the responsibility of keeping them alive 24/7 is a hard job and sometimes my anxiety gets the best of me. (moving on because anxiety is really another topic for another post)
  2. I’m currently re-learning to take care of myself: Yes, you read it correctly. After roughly 18 months of being pregnant, and months of taking care of an infant AND toddler and now chasing down two toddlers, you can probably imagine how easy it is to neglect my own needs. I’m finally making time to do things I need to do. One of them was starting this blog (yay me).
  3. Sometimes things don’t get done: I go to sleep with dishes in the sink, the kids have gone to bed without a bath and I used to feel bad, but I have come to terms with “It’ll still be there tomorrow.” No point in stressing over what will still be there tomorrow.
  4. It’s not always rewarding: “Parenting is rewarding” they said. “It’s the most wonderful feeling ever” they said. Well what they, whoever they is, didn’t tell you is that you won’t feel like that every minute of everyday. I love being a mom, but it’s not always fun. Recently, both girls had a stomach virus (yeah, gross, I know right) well for about a week, I has cleaning up throw up and changing diarrhea diapers (too much info? Sorry) and guess what, my husband had it too. So here I was, doing all this. I had to take off work to endure the late nights and early mornings. I was exhausted and no matter what I did or how hard I worked, nobody was getting any better because the virus just had to run it’s course. Where’s the reward in that?
  5. I’d rather work that be a stay at home mom: Most people think moms work because they have to. I work because I want to, because I need to. I know plenty of moms reading this would probably give anything to be able to stay home with their kids, but unfortunately I am not one of them. I love my career and I honestly feel that being a stay at home mom isn’t for everyone. I do enjoy breaks where I get to stay home for weeks at a time with them but that is a full time job that I wouldn’t volunteer for.
  6. I didn’t “snap back” and that’s ok: With media today, you see celebrities and IG models who post their post-pregnancy abs two days after birthing a child. Well thats not the case for me! Although I do get complements, I am no where near confident in my mommy body. I have stretch marks galore and a muffin top; my breasts are no longer perfect and my skin is a mess! I’m definitely no Beyonce but I’m ok with that.

I absolutely love being a mommy! Being a mom gives me joy, it give me purpose, and it has given me strength beyond measures. Being a mom is tough and you never know what the next person is experiencing. The next time you see a mom you think has it all together, just know that she has some confessions too.

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32 thoughts on “Confessions of a Working Mom of Two Under Two”

  4. Get it Mommy! Thanks for keeping it real.

    My favorite one was when you talked about your career. I am having the conversation of kids with my own husband and I go back and forth on it. I love our life just the two of us. I won’t give up my career or blogging so I think society has a way of making us think ‘good’ Moms or woman that ‘should’ be Moms should live and breathe for their children and that just is not me.

    I will adore our children but before them was my husband and I and that relationship will forever be sacred and be held very high in my eyes.

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  5. I’m here for ALL OF THIS! Nothing but realness reported in this post. I only have one child but I can totally understand, especially #5. I’m currently a stay at home mom because childcare cost and our budget had some issues in 2016 and it was cheaper for me to stay at home for a couple years. I look forward to returning to work this year as my daughter enters public school PreK.

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  6. Love your honesty here. This is all true. I’m a SAHM and love it, but it certainly isn’t for everyone. Not every day is sunshine and rainbows. Some days I still miss working. I miss not being essentially a slave to a tiny dictator who runs on juice and cartoons. I know that working moms sometimes have a lot of guilt. But they shouldn’t. They are awesome Mommas either way.

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  7. Thanks for your open and honest sharing. Wow! 2 kids under 2 and a full-time job! I have also learned not to sweat the small things. There will always be housework etc to do. Taking care of yourself actually makes you more productive in the long run

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  8. Such a great read! I applaud you for all the steps you take daily to be intentional with your parenting. It will be hard some days. But it’s also very good at the same time. Do know that you are doing a great job. Well done you!

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    1. Thanks for reading!! It was a long time coming, it was on my goals list forever seem like. I finally made up in my mind that I HAD to do it and I’m glad I did!

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  10. I don’t have kids, but this is a refreshing read. It’s always interesting to get the perspective of women who are already mothers as someone who hopes to be one someday {soon}. Thank you for sharing your journey!

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  13. Lawd! I understand ALL of this! I have a 2 year old son and 8 month old daughter and you are absolutely right about everything. It’s really hard at times being a mom. Some people don’t get it and want to say that what I do is not that hard..*side eye* it’s not the same for every mom.. I truly appreciate this post. Thank you for sharing!

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  14. I can relate… I’m a mom of 4 kids–9 year old son, twin 7 year old girls, and a 3 year old boy. It’s tough. Really tough! But I wouldn’t change it for the world. It’s so worth it!!

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  18. I’m not a mom but I can appreciate this post! I think its OK to be vulnerable and let other parents or parents to be that motherhood is not always easy and its OK if things don’t always get done! great post

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